Self-Growth and Loneliness 🌱
There are many positives to self growth, and there are some challenges to self growth. Challenges can include changing beliefs and losing loved ones, which can leave us feeling lonely.
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Facing your beliefs can be scary, so it takes courage. When we take a honest view of self, we will see spaces we can improve, and resist change to feel safe and comfortable. Many of us know what we need to do, but do we have enough courage to do it? We can be chained to our past or current identities and upgrading or reinventing identities can be a grieving process. The death of the old you and the birth of the new you. We too can rise again with all power (power over self vs others). - excuse me sometimes I start preaching. :)
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The grieving process doesn't just stop at the death of old identities, your new identities may position you on an energy level where you can no longer sustain or remain in relationships with your loved ones. You grew, but the people you love were resistant to growth. The people you love, don't know you anymore, and the behaviors you used to do, you may not do anymore. James Clear reported one percent improvement every day adds up to make you 37 times better after a year. A big upgrade, possibly leaving a huge disconnection between you and your loved ones.
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Now you have upgraded and grown. You have new beliefs, behaviors, and experiences, and your loved ones cannot see you clearly. Some loved ones may feel hurt at the better you. You may even question, should you have stayed in your old patterns for their attention and acceptance. The loneliness may increase, and you find yourself in solitude. What can you do now? You cope positively!
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Use that solitude along your journey of self-actualization and enlightenment. Marianne Williamson stated as you let your light shine, you unconsciously give other people permission to shine their light. Your light will become brighter and brighter along the journey, maybe even so bright that your loved ones, the ones you thought you lost, will activate their courage to change, improve, and grow.
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8 Ways to Cope with the Loneliness of Self-Growth
- Practice Self-Care
Self-care is great, especially when you are feeling lonely. Eating nutritious food, exercising, and getting enough sleep will make you feel better in the long run.Â
-Â Join a Class, Club, or Team
Joining a class, club, or team automatically exposes you to a group of people show share at least one of your interests. It can also provide a sense of belonging, reducing the feeling of loneliness.Â
 - Strengthen Existing Positive Relationships
Send a text, make the call, and go on the outing to enjoy your existing relationships and strengthen bonds. Start with one supportive person!
- Volunteer
Volunteering brings the benefits of altruism (emotional well-being, increased social support, stress relief, balanced perspective, increased gratitude, greater happiness and life satisfaction).Â
- Adopt a Pet
Pets, especially dogs and cats can reduce loneliness. Cute dogs can also be a people magnet. Additionally, pets provide unconditional love and comfort.Â
- Find a Hobby
Find a hobby that you can do that does not require people. Some hobbies can include cooking, reading, writing, art, traveling, etc. When you share more time with you and work on you, you may find you would rather be with you than most other people.Â
- Connect Online
The internet allows us to connect with people from all over the world, people who share our same interests, and who have similar experiences. It can be a space of encouragement, support, and comfort.
- Engage in Therapy
Sometimes "getting out there" and meeting other people is not enough. It is possible to still feel lonely when you're around people, which could actually be a sign of depression or social anxiety. A therapist can assist you to reduce loneliness and increased positive coping skills.Â
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What are some other ways to cope with the loneliness of self-growth?
What are some ways you prefer to grow?
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Facing your beliefs can be scary, so it takes courage. When we take a honest view of self, we will see spaces we can improve, and resist change to feel safe and comfortable. Many of us know what we need to do, but do we have enough courage to do it? We can be chained to our past or current identities and upgrading or reinventing identities can be a grieving process. The death of the old you and the birth of the new you. We too can rise again with all power (power over self vs others). - excuse me sometimes I start preaching. :)
-
The grieving process doesn't just stop at the death of old identities, your new identities may position you on an energy level where you can no longer sustain or remain in relationships with your loved ones. You grew, but the people you love were resistant to growth. The people you love, don't know you anymore, and the behaviors you used to do, you may not do anymore. James Clear reported one percent improvement every day adds up to make you 37 times better after a year. A big upgrade, possibly leaving a huge disconnection between you and your loved ones.
-
Now you have upgraded and grown. You have new beliefs, behaviors, and experiences, and your loved ones cannot see you clearly. Some loved ones may feel hurt at the better you. You may even question, should you have stayed in your old patterns for their attention and acceptance. The loneliness may increase, and you find yourself in solitude. What can you do now? You cope positively!
-
Use that solitude along your journey of self-actualization and enlightenment. Marianne Williamson stated as you let your light shine, you unconsciously give other people permission to shine their light. Your light will become brighter and brighter along the journey, maybe even so bright that your loved ones, the ones you thought you lost, will activate their courage to change, improve, and grow.
-
8 Ways to Cope with the Loneliness of Self-Growth
- Practice Self-Care
Self-care is great, especially when you are feeling lonely. Eating nutritious food, exercising, and getting enough sleep will make you feel better in the long run.Â
-Â Join a Class, Club, or Team
Joining a class, club, or team automatically exposes you to a group of people show share at least one of your interests. It can also provide a sense of belonging, reducing the feeling of loneliness.Â
 - Strengthen Existing Positive Relationships
Send a text, make the call, and go on the outing to enjoy your existing relationships and strengthen bonds. Start with one supportive person!
- Volunteer
Volunteering brings the benefits of altruism (emotional well-being, increased social support, stress relief, balanced perspective, increased gratitude, greater happiness and life satisfaction).Â
- Adopt a Pet
Pets, especially dogs and cats can reduce loneliness. Cute dogs can also be a people magnet. Additionally, pets provide unconditional love and comfort.Â
- Find a Hobby
Find a hobby that you can do that does not require people. Some hobbies can include cooking, reading, writing, art, traveling, etc. When you share more time with you and work on you, you may find you would rather be with you than most other people.Â
- Connect Online
The internet allows us to connect with people from all over the world, people who share our same interests, and who have similar experiences. It can be a space of encouragement, support, and comfort.
- Engage in Therapy
Sometimes "getting out there" and meeting other people is not enough. It is possible to still feel lonely when you're around people, which could actually be a sign of depression or social anxiety. A therapist can assist you to reduce loneliness and increased positive coping skills.Â
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What are some other ways to cope with the loneliness of self-growth?
What are some ways you prefer to grow?
-
📸 Instagram @ LiveLongNFree
Â
📽 Youtube @ https://www.youtube.com/@ZayLacefield
Â
👕 Wear Love @ https://livelongnfree.com
Â
📚 Books @ https://www.amazon.com/Isiah-Lacefield/e/B00Q3WZCBQ/ref=dp_byline_cont_ebooks_1
Â
🥰 Mental Health Therapy @ https://headway.co/providers/isiah-lacefield